TALK

Let’s TALK about this-

If you bite your tongue for too long, or too many times, you will no longer be able to talk!

There are so many times when choosing to not speak can be so much more powerful than words. And what about those times when you just cannot find the right words and the moment was lost? Then, when you do decide to TALK, your words are not received the way you intended.

In TALKing, we are taking a big risk. It’s one of the most overrated yet understated ways of communicating. How can people fall for just words coming out of someone’s mouth? Then, once they are out, they can never be taken back.

“We need to TALK.” When someone says this to you, or you say this to someone, a confrontation begins. I learned this today. Those words trigger resistance immediately. If I could have do-overs, this is where I would have begun.

But seriously, I shouldn’t of had to of gotten to that point. Speaking of timing, I should have said it much sooner.

So, you can choose to bite your tongue– over and over again. Or, you can just clamp down on your tongue…. same difference, same result- there’s going to be a consequence the next time you choose to TALK. Even if it is on a totally different subject. Have you ever heard someone try to talk with a damaged tongue or no tongue at all?

I was holding back words, allowing another person to tell me what I was “feeling or thinking.” And in doing so, it made me doubt what my truth was. I chose to not TALK, and in biting and holding my tongue– all of those unspoken words became toxic to me. It shouldn’t be necessary for a person to explain themselves or to express themselves verbally, but it’s human. It’s about being part of civilization, a team, or a society.

Update:  I just read a wise quote that said that if someone doesn’t understand your silence,  they will most likely not understand what you have to say.  Now that’s true.   So when do we choose to TALK, and will our choice of words have an impact?